The idea of a “soul mate” is more prevalent in human thinking than ever before. Many of you may believe there is that perfect someone out there just for you! This “theory”, for that’s what it essentially is, is mostly based on an overall misunderstanding about the true nature of life and the journey of the human spirit. I know, many of us have a romantic vision of that perfect relationship, that special person who will bring to us great joy and a sense of completion, but we need to consider the practical implications of such a perspective. I will tell you, there is not just one person who is suitable for us, but many. In other words, you may spend your life waiting for this person to show up, and miss the ones who do! From that all important practicality, we must broaden our base, if you will, and allow ourselves some flexibility in our search, or we may indeed live our lives entirely alone. My friends, there are many people we can choose to be with, to have a relationship with, to spend some quality time with.
I think what we’re really talking about here is compatibility, are we not? We wish to find someone we can be relatively comfortable with, and that is certainly understandable. If we return to the importance of flexibility in our approach, however, we must know that in order to have any kind of relationship, we must be willing to do the necessary work in order for it to be successful. Again, we can make a good go of things with just about anyone, it’s simply a matter of our willingness. So, if you find yourself in a relationship that is challenging, and you believe this somehow means that there must be somebody better, you’re missing the point of it all. We must understand there is nobody out there who is going to match us exactly. If that were the case, we would never learn anything about ourselves. You see, that’s what relationships are really about, an opportunity to get to know ourselves better. Each of us has unique qualities and indeed unique experiences, and this gives great importance to the need to come together, and thereby improve upon ourselves. It’s always about an opportunity to grow, and to share who and what we are with somebody else. This is the healthy perspective we need, and then we’ll be free to explore and do the necessary work when it is required of us to do so.
My dearest friends, let any person who comes into your life be the perfect person. We can never know unless we try. Relationships are about our ability to express love, above and beyond everything else. By the way, sex is indeed a very small part! In other words, there are many significant elements to a relationship, and each part is only relatively important at best. Basically, our partner gives us the opportunity to learn how to give, and this giving is largely dependent on the need to make occasional sacrifices in order to have that person be in our lives. And no, it isn’t always easy. It’s ok, for the challenges we face will most certainly lead us to a better way. I tell you, the best relationships are based on choice, not need. Please deeply consider the implications of this simple truth, and you will see greater success at every turn.
My intent is not to burst your bubble, my friends, I simply want to remind you that no relationship is going to be easy. In many cases, the most difficult ones are the ones meant for us. Sometimes, what we want is not what we need. Having said that, we must know that growth and healing are the most important factors. Within this process, more freedom and understanding will always be gained. So, understand that every human being in the world has the potential to be a soul mate of yours. Opportunities are many. Give of your heart and mind, and allow the other person the same. There is nothing we cannot do or should not do. We can do and be anything. It is our choice to live, to have experience, and so, the journey continues.
Just a few words today. But, before we part ways, I want to bring up one more important point in our search for that special relationship. My friends, what all of us really seek is a sense of wholeness about ourselves and our lives. Ultimately, this does not come from the outside. This is why we cannot expect any person to provide it for us. It is our job to find wholeness on the inside, you see. The most important relationship we need to develop, then, is with our very own higher self. This is the real “soul mate” we seek. Do this necessary work, and you will be entirely fulfilled. Then, you will have everything to give everyone, including yourself. It is, beyond any doubt, our greatest goal and achievement.
All my love and support, be well