Do you ever wonder why you admire someone? The short answer is, we see something in someone else we want for ourselves. This indicates to us that we’re on a journey of becoming a better self, and this indeed is a very good thing. The other people in our lives, such as parents, teachers, or that special friend, allow us to see what is possible for us. To see who this other is and what they have is only half the journey, however. The other half is far more important. We must do our own work, my friends, and attempt to bring into our own life what we see. In other words, we cannot live vicariously through others and expect to become this better self we seek.
If we do not pursue our own development in practical and realistic ways, we will unfortunately believe that what we see in others, we can never have for ourselves. We defeat our own purpose. This leads to a very bad habit of placing those we idealize on a pedestal. What we need to realize is that no person belongs there, for no such perfect person exists. Certainly, there are others who have achieved greater success in particular areas of human living, but they continue to grow, and intend to become a better self as well. It is when we see someone else as perfect or better than us that we give our power away. This is a power we clearly need for ourselves, for without it, we could never create what is important and achievable on our own. Holding someone else in high esteem, therefore, can be very helpful, as long as we know it to be temporary. We aspire to what we see on the outside, and then we get busy on the inside. This is the proper direction and use of our creative force.
Having considered the above, we must learn how to aspire to those who are genuine and have our best interests in mind. If we’re willing to place someone on a pedestal, there are many who will let us. Just remember, they require our power in order to remain there, and only we can give it. Keep in mind, as well, a person who has achieved some degree of greatness honestly will meet you where you’re at. You see, we exist on a plane of equality. Those who are humble are the best teachers and examples, for they live according to their nature, they are real. Regardless of this crucial realization, each of us will have that important experience of giving our power to another anyway, by believing we have found someone who is everything we ever hope to be some day. Unfortunately, our unrealistic expectations become the great deceiver. It is a painful experience to wake up one day and be entirely disappointed, is it not? But, again, it isn’t somebody else’s fault, we did it to ourselves. My friends, we cannot allow any other to be our answer. If we become bitter in this necessary experience of giving our power away to someone else, and take no responsibility for it, we will have learned nothing. Then, rather than benefiting from our aspiration, admiration, and esteem, we will instead find fault in others from there on. This isn’t fair to ourselves, nor is it fair to others. We are misguided and misdirected. Again, we have lost our way. If we allow ourselves and all others to come down to Earth, then we see our shared humanity. Seeing imperfection is a good thing, for it provides a required realism as we move forward. So, go ahead and be inspired by others, and then begin to create something for yourself. If it doesn’t work out, nothing is lost. Either keep trying for the same, or try something else. And always be aware, there is nothing we see on the outside, nothing we see in others, that is mandatory in our creative process. Our goal is to see what lies within as necessary and doable, for this is all we are. Know yourself, love yourself, be yourself!
Live from the inside out
The center of everything is you, all possibility exists within
In this way, self-awareness is understood to be our most important goal
All my love and support, be well