My friends, every spiritual student is also a teacher. Our service to humanity and the world is an opportunity to help out in every conceivable way. It needs to be clear to us, each person who comes into our lives, into our presence, has done so for a reason. This is the attractive nature of love, for there is a part of our experience, a part of us, this other person requires, and could indeed benefit from. We know more, and we therefore have something to offer, in order for them to be able to proceed in their life in a more productive way. We give back what we have already received. To a certain extent, we must recognize that we are in a better place than they are, and they certainly would like to be in that same place with us. So, how can we be of the best help, how can we assist them in the forward movement they seek?
As a teacher, we need to realize, the only thing the other person really needs from us is love and acceptance. They need to feel supported, they need to be assured they are not alone, and most importantly, they need to know that what they are currently experiencing is temporary and will lead them to a better way. Because we have found a better place, a better way, we simply provide for them a surety that they will also. But, my friends, we must remember, we cannot do it for them. The greatest gift we can give another is to open up a space for them to find what they’re looking for on their own. We are only there to love and to listen. You see, we are attempting to do it for them, when we push or try to force. This kind of help is ego-driven, it is born of impatience, and it will almost always lead to disaster. We must step back, and therefore allow, with the open space we intend to create for them. This is all that is needed.
Oftentimes, fellow companions, we can be of the most help by not helping, unless of course it is asked for. We do not advise until advice is invoked. This is the “Golden Rule”, for each must gain understanding of their own accord. Having said that, there is one important exception, that is, if the person who comes to us is in some kind of immediate danger. Then, we must break all the rules, and bring them back to a proper focus, so they do not incur any unnecessary damage. Trust yourself. You will know what demands your immediate attention, and what can wait. So, when our experience is asked for, then we have the opportunity to give it. It is love that allows us to know where the person is at, to know what is appropriate, what is necessary and what is unnecessary. To help them, to meet them where they’re at, we simply remember that we used to be there also. We accept our role as the teacher, and we receive the one who comes to us as the student. Yes, the student is in pain, is confused, and perhaps they are immersed in a self-judgment of mistakes made. In order to help, we must recall for ourselves the same, we must remember. This brings to us as a teacher a great challenge, for we do not want to go back there! We don’t want to experience the pain and confusion all over again. But, you see, this is our greatest service, it is our greatest sacrifice. Yes, we must temporarily become a previous version of ourselves. This is required, for it is how our fellow human beings will know they are not alone. They will know there is nothing wrong with them. There is nothing unusual about the experiences they are having. Now, it is time to tell them what you know. Tell them how you got from the place they are, where you once were, to the place you are now. They must be assured that they will learn what they need to learn in order to create that required forward movement. My friends, it is your willingness to be with them, and the confidence you exude, that calms them. Now, they are able to see a way out. In these most important interactions, you must accept that you are going to make mistakes, you’re going to screw it up until you get it right. Don’t worry, for no matter what happens, the love you give, and the effort you are willing to engage with, is enough. You must have an absolute knowing that they will find their way, because you have found yours. It’s only a matter of time.
It’s hard for us, is it not? We care so much. We want to provide what is needed. We want our fellow brothers and sisters to be free of suffering, we want them to get it right. Although there will be times when it is asked of us to return to the pain, in order that their pain be alleviated, we cannot allow ourselves to remain there. We cannot take on the totality of what others are responsible for themselves, for we will be of no service at all. It is a proper, healthy, and objective balance we must find. Meet each person where they’re at, but don’t forget to come back to the place you are now. If you become lost with them, it is two that will drown. And again, my friends, we do not push our own agenda. So, if you feel impelled to change someone, you are coming from the place of the ego. This only creates a continued, and unnecessary, impatience. My friends, we have enough time. Nobody is going to be in pain forever. There is no person who is truly lost, there is no person who will remain in a darkness and an unknowing, with no way to ever escape. Bring the soul into your experience, before you communicate, before you attempt to help, for it is only the soul who knows of appropriate timing, who knows of the real agenda. If we feel hurried, we will inform the person before us of things they are not ready to hear. This will set them back, rather than help them move forward. Be patient, and then you will know what is right. Life unfolds for everyone. We each have the same opportunities. However, what must be known by everyone, is not known by everyone at this time. Again, the reality we see before us is but temporary. The apparent gap between us is also indeed temporary. Remember, there is never a need to criticize, or make anyone wrong, no matter who they are or where they are at. They are where they are for a reason, and they will find their way to the better way when the time is right. We have been there, so we can let them be there, we can allow them to be where they need to be. Change is imminent, but we have no need to push it just because it is there. It’s only love that really matters. We can be patient, we can allow, we can be ok with things as they are, for it is compassion which paves the way for all to achieve. My dearest friends, I ask you, “Is compassion born of our own memory, then?” I think it has to be. It is our memory of suffering that brings us every opportunity to serve.
We meet each person where they’re at by being with them. There is no judgment, there is no second guessing, for love is all that we ever need to be. We lead them forward, we truly help them, by simply being ourselves. We must display this self that we are honestly, or the ones we hope to lead will never follow. What we really want for every person is for them to find a way to accept themselves. How can we really offer this if we do not accept ourselves also? We teach through authenticity, you see. What else can there be? Fellow human beings, fellow students of life, fellow disciples, what a wonderful time to be alive! What a beautiful world, what a beautiful humanity! Can we proceed on this most important forward movement with all joy and certainty? I think we already are! The door has opened. There is no longer anything to be afraid of, for we have found our way. We are of the most help, by appreciating the joyful opportunity that is before us. This must be our approach with all who come to us, in all that we say and do. This is what we offer, this is what we give. We trust the path of the soul, and on this path, we walk together. All will surely follow, for it is indeed a path toward everlasting love, peace, freedom, and understanding. Indeed, it is a path available to all.
All my love and support, be well